Flawsome After a heavy storm. The Wind blows up and Fade away. Stillness of a dark soul. Freezing mist Grey clouds. The rains falls on my shallow face, A chaotic calmness resonate. Desperately, the sun rises above my horizon, Warm breeze murmurs down “Hush!” whispers to me: “calm down, calm down.”
“I grew up in London, and although the political and religious tensions that my parents had fled continued to exist in our new home, they strives to make the most of their new lives. We were all very fortunate to be able to find a safe and stable home, and I was able to learn and grow in a very different environment than the one in which I had been born. I’m one of the refugees children who migrated with their parents to the United Kingdom in 1998. My parents were fleeing political and religious persecution, and they hoped to find a better life in the UK.
It was a difficult journey, but they were determined to make the best of their new home. We were raised in a family where women and girls are treated unfairly and oppressed. A six-year-old girl can be killed by our parents if she rebels and breaks the rules of her community. This often happens when the girl exhibits signs of being defiant or disobedient. Parents may use physical violence, threats, or isolation to control their daughter. If the girl is caught breaking rules, she may be punished with a beating.
كنت ساحبها… هل هناك ورش لصناعة ذاكرة جديدة؟ ذاكرة نظيفة لا غبار عليها. ذاكرة خالية من الكافيين حياة حلوة. ذاكرة لا تشبه مرارة قهوتي. مثلي مثل ذلك البرواز الفارغ الذي يسند الحائط كيف إني تركته وحيدا مثلما تركتها؟ مر عليه زمن طويل و هو على نفس الحال لم يمل و لم ييأس دون صورة تحتضن فراغه او تؤنس وحدته و وحدتنا المعلقة بين البلدين. كلانا على حالنا بين هنا وهناك قلبي و انا وهي كيف حالنا؟ كيف حال قلبي هناك؟ و كيف حالي أنا هنا؟ اليوم بالذات قررت ان اطلق سراح حبة الهال الغارقة في قعر فنجان القهوة حاولت انقاذها بطرف الملعقة النحاسية حاولت انتشالها لكن دوامة التفل كانت تلتف حولها تعانقها بشدة تأبى إفلاتها وتغرقها بينما انا على هذه الحال بين الإبحار والغرقان قررت ان اعتزل فن الكافيين. واستقبل عيناها كنت سأحبها رغمًا عني وما أحببتها او ربما جذبني غرورها نحوي او كنت اريد الفرار من غفلتي كأن العالم كان ساكنًا عندما رأيتها للتو ما كنت لأدرك اني أضعف كل مرة امامها رغم انها لم تكن تعنيني لقد اتيت اليها بعد هزيمة فاضحة بوجه نال حظه من الكدمات شعرت بشجاعة حقيقية عندما عانقت كفها لأول مرة رغم انها لا تعنني منذ زمن بعيد جدا كانت وكنت وما كان عندي قلب بعد! اذكر في اليوم الأول يومها تركت قهوتي على حافة الشرفة لتبرد لم ارد على الهاتف وضعت يدي في جيبي وتركتها تنتظر على الهاتف لساعات لم ادرك انه كان هناك فرصة تمر امامي لم ادرك أني كنت سأبحث عن تفاصيلها في كل مكان كنت سأحبها رغم الالف علة فيها كنت سأحبها رغما عن مليون عيبًا فيها ولكن غلّبني القلق وغروري حينها. ربما قد كنت اعشق غيرها الفا ولكن هناك فراغًا ما ملئته امرأة مثلها قطعًا أجزم رغما عني كنت سأحبها رغم انني لم أكن الوحيد. على اي حال مرت ومررت بها واخذتني الرعشة حين التقيتها مجددًا. كما تركتها امرأة غريبة الأطوار ممزوجة بالجنون والبراءة وبرودة القلب متعجرفة قوية متسلطة حنونة لينة جريئة منذفعة حساسة كيف يمكن ان تتأقلم مع كل شيء رغم العناق الحاد في عينيها كانت خيبتها اقسى من كلامها مضت دون كلام مضت بغير عائق، ورغمًا عني نسيت يدي عالقة في يدها كنت سأحبها رغما عنها لكنها مضت
No matter what
I’ll always try my best.
There are things
I can’t explain.
I’ve no idea how to start
there’s somethings hidden
Unable to express
Not sure if I can understand
to get rid of all my negative vibes
that makes me down
anxious and depressed
Speechless most of the time
But at least I try
I try even more
Because I know
Things will get better
Sometimes I feel like my best
Isn’t good enough
I beat myself each time
When I can’t offers help
For someone I don’t know
Because I can’t accept the reality
And move on
Always rebellious and tired of all
The bad things that’s
I’m not perfect
I also made mistakes
But I believe
things will get better
I have grown not to accept the reality
To be honest
To keep my head up
And move on
Even though there’s
Hurt and pain underneath
But I know
It always gets better
There are people that
I think about most of the time
Who are no more present in
Due to choices made by themselves
Ongoing persuasions by others
Or because it was my fault
I moved on
Because I know
Is a great choice
After all I know
Things will gets better
Let it out
How did I fall so low!
Why does silly things makes me upset!
So sensitive about many things around
Any small action crumbles me down
Let it out
Things will gets better
No matter what
It’ll gets better
1 in 3 students worldwide has been the victim of bullying, which can have serious impacts on children’s mental health. Learn more about the risks of school violence and how you can help.
Many have given you tips on how to deal with bullies. Some advices you to ignore then so they will stop their bullying.
In fact, they won’t stop, they’ll try to chase you and made fun of you and challenge you until you give up. After a while you’ll start to feel uncomfortable and you may lose your self esteem and confidence. They’ll try to harm you and destroys your spirituality.
Others advices you to face them. But how can you protect your self during this process?
In reality, dealing with this kind of people is somehow hard. You have to keep in mind first that these people are sick, and you have to deal with them according to their mental illness.
Second, you will be revolved around each other on the same field, this may increase your fears.
If someone hits you, should you revenge and respond?
You may have searched in the library or online for self-development books to get useful answers after you became an adult. These books include tips on the importance of staying calm.
So “Be assertive but not hostile.”
This may be a good advice, but applying it, is not easy. Everyone try to gives you different kinds of advices but nothing is working as you think it should be done. Because everyone can see the case from his own perspective. It could be true that all the advices that you’ve heard be right and wrong at the same time. All of these strategies can work depending on on every single person case. But not all strategies work for the same case.
Instead of looking at the details, remember one rule: You won’t beat the bully with the same weapon. Remember that you are dealing with a person who suffers from mental disorders. These people need help from a mental health professional like a counselor, social worker, psychiatrist, or psychologist. So that’s what you need to do: “break the old dominant pattern by doing something unexpected.” Just use your “mind” and think logical.
Here are some true things about bullies: Keep in mind that most bullies have no idea about normal social emotions like guilt, empathy, compassion, or remorse.
Aggressive bully, might make fun of you to your face or physically hurt you.
quiet and sneaky bully might try to manipulate in secret.
Friendly but fake bully might pretend to be friendly but they’ll try to hurt you whenever you turn your back.
In most cases there are common tips that may help which considered stable and never change.
Ignorance, Walk away. The most important part in bullies mental dimension is that they all feel satisfied when they get a reaction. But If you walk away or ignore them, their brain will receive a direct message from your side that tells them in an indirect way that
“You don’t care.”
Hold your head high Your Body language can still help in such situations where you’re able send a message through your body that “You’re not vulnerable.”
Don’t fight them. You’re more likely to be hurt and get into trouble if you fight a bully. Work out your anger “ Delete their messages and “Never reply with anger”
Talk to the bully. Point out that their behavior is serious and harmful. This can work well
Confidence Confidence Respond to the bully verbally or through your behavior. Practice feeling good about yourself even if you have to fake it “at first”.
Talk about it. It may help to talk to a guidance counselor — anyone who can give you the support to reduce the fears and frustrations..
Whatever you face, You don’t have to dwell on your emotions or constantly talk about how you feel. Emotional awareness simply means recognizing, respecting, and accepting your feelings as they happen. Just try to manage it logically by knowing their weakness points.
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